Counseling & Career Development Center
If Someone You Know Is Sexually Assaulted
Sexual Assault is often not only traumatic for the victim, but often for their loved ones. The experience of a sexual assault can put a great deal of strain on the relationships that the victim has with friends, family members, coworkers, and lovers. If you know someone who may have been sexually assaulted be aware that you may be more affected by their experience then you anticipate. There are resources available to help you as well. For more information, see the following suggestions and resource list, or call the Counseling Center to set up an appointment to speak with a counselor about your reaction to your loved one's victimization.
How You Can Help
DO...
- Be supportive
- Share your feelings
- Listen
- Communicate that your friend is not responsible for the violation
- Make sure he or she has a safe place to stay
- Realize that you, too, have been affected and seek counseling if necessary
- Allow your friend to regain control by making his or her own decisions
- Make yourself available to accompany your friend to the hospital or counseling center
DO NOT...
- Attempt to seek revenge
- Make jokes
- Be angry or disappointed with your friend
- Force your friend to talk
- Ask your friend how he or she could have "let this happen"
- Assume you can understand how your friend feels
- Take control
- Discuss the incident with others unless you have permission from the victim (professional mental health counselors are the exception)
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