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Common Responses to Sexual Assault

Many victims experience common responses to the experience of being sexually assaulted. While these responses are common, that does not make them any less important, or difficult for the victims to deal with.

  • A survivor may feel ashamed, guilty, fearful, or numb. Often a survivor's self-esteem is diminished after an assault. It is important to remember that the attack is not his or her fault.
  • A survivor may find it difficult to trust and to be intimate with others.
  • A survivor may experience flashbacks of the incident.
  • A survivor may experience fear of being alone.
  • A survivor may experience nightmares or other sleep disturbances.
  • A survivor may not be able to concentrate and focus. This can affect academic and/or job performance.

Common Feelings Following Sexual Violence

(as listed in, "Sexual Assault: Will I Ever Feel Okay Again?" by Kay Scott)

angry
embarrassed
regretful
impatient
afraid
ashamed
relieved
dazed
weary
discouraged
resentful
criticized
sad
cold
shocked
distressed
horrified
distant
disoriented
grieved
desperate
broken
uneasy
detached
alone
weak
unhappy
agitated
bad
lifeless
torn
stressed
troubled
empty
defeated
unsure
numb
hopeless
disinterested
dependent
unworthy
scorned
dissatisfied
unacceptable
rejected
helpless
blown away
traumatized
hurt
unlovable
misjudged
filthy
shattered
unglued
vindictive
want to forget
hateful
panic-stricken
unprotected
why?
worthless
despairing
tense
unsafe
lifeless
forgotten
lost
blamed
shaky
shamed
hysterical
fragile
indignant
confused
annoyed
robbed
isolated
anxious
unloved
uptight
belittled
used
exhausted
bottled up
unwanted
betrayed
crushed
forsaken
edgy
depressed
paranoid
abandoned
desperate
powerless
miserable
different
bitter
despondent
violated
damaged
envious
judged
burdened
humiliated
disbelief
defiled
inadequate
picked-on
overwhelmed
furious
unfeminine
insecure
incompetent
enraged
terrible
insignificant
worried
threatened
misunderstood
moody
frustrated
nervous
crazy
uncomfortable

Grateful to be alive
I just don't understand
No one understands
Need to escape
Always crying
Can't ever cry when I want to
I'll never get better
Everything's changed
My whole world is askew
Unbearable pain
Full of self-contempt
Wish he had killed me
Alone with memories
Yearn to feel normal
What's the use?
Living in a prison
On a roller coaster
Maybe it was my fault
Can't cope
Can't trust
Sick in the pit of my stomach
Don't know who I am anymore
Full of other-contempt
Emotionally dead
Don't care how I look
Can't concentrate
Want to disappear
Should be finished with this by now
Self-conscious about my body
Can't shake it
Responsible for others' pain
Want to become invisible
No control over what happens to me
Want to look unattractive so no one will want to touch me